ARIA GUIDANCE

What if the real revolution begins inside your body? What if you can subtly, immutably, shift what you are drawn to so that you always choose a path of peace and purpose? For centuries, change was defined by force. Shouting, fighting, resisting. A clash of voices and ideals. But time and trauma has revealed a deeper truth: A body that is out of balance cannot build a peaceful world. If fear lives in the body, then peace must also be embodied. If a person is dysregulated, exha

My romantic partner recently told me he felt insecure about how many sexual partners I might have had. It’s not the first time I’ve heard this question, directly or indirectly. What’s your “number”? If I’m honest, I’ve started to notice that this question is often less innocent than it seems. In more than one relationship, I’ve watched men spiral around my sexual history, not simply from insecurity, but from a deep cultural wound around ownership. I have felt many times like

I remember not-so-gracefully coming out as polyamorous to my parents nearly eight years ago. At the time, I didn’t really know what I was doing. I only knew that I needed something different from the conventional relationships I had known. My previous relationship, at 21 years old, had felt restrictive. Like many relationships, it was built on invisible agreements I had inherited without questioning them: unspoken expectations, ownership, and fear. His values were almost the

I’ve worked with hundreds of clients over the years, and one desire comes up again and again: most people want to find a partner. In our culture, romantic partnership is an accepted, expected, and supported way of meeting our needs. I understand why. I love companionship, mutuality, a kiss, a cuddle, and having someone to share life with. But if so many people want partnership, why are so many people struggling to find it? I work with many women who want a man who is around t

The gift economy is an idea that's time has come. We are beginning to see through the empty promises of consumerism, and are slowly leaving shopping centres in search of something more. We know that the financial system is unsustainable and the gap between rich and poor is growing in a giant feedback loop, where exploitation makes the rich richer at the expense of people, animals, and the environment. We desperately wish to mend our abusive relationship with nature. Many peop

Restoring flow on the planet, and in your body A few years ago, I went to a river restoration site in the USA. The facilitator explained something so simple and so obvious, that it landed in my body like a revelation. When the water curves in its natural S-shaped path, the ecosystem is diverse and alive. The slow edges become nurseries where salmon spawn. The deeper middles become steady migratory routes for fish swimming upstream. The gentle bends create pockets of rest, po

Escapism, addiction, and the long walk back to truth.

The belief that some people are “above” and others are “below” has been quietly shaping the way we value ourselves, relate to others, and interpret the world. Hierarchy is one of the most invisible distortions in human culture. It has seeped into almost everything: Who we listen to. Who we dismiss. Who we serve. Who we silence. Who we believe deserves love, freedom, and safety. Hierarchy decides these things long before we consciously do. The concept of hierarchy is one of th

Here’s what I wish I could’ve told that younger version of myself: Life speaks to us. It doesn’t always scream, but it whispers… gently, in moments big and small.

Embracing Change and Growth Spiritual guidance can be incredibly helpful in exploring the direction a person could move into in their own career. Recently, I have been reflecting on high school graduates stepping into the world. This transition can be daunting for those searching for a meaningful and engaging career. How do we find our purpose in a world that often feels broken? I have spent considerable time contemplating this in my own life. The quest for a meaningful caree